Wednesday, December 17, 2014

It's all about needs

This is probably the last and final blog post of this project. It's long overdue - eighteen months has passed since the previous post. I checked the stats today, and people are apparently still reading this blog. It's all online and I guess the topic is relevant for those who read it. So let me give you a final update.

I have abandoned the goal of running marathons and ultras.

Running, as in marathon training, is rewarding in many ways, no doubt. Physically and mentally (better fitness, better self-esteem), socially (sense of community and belonging with other runners: mass events, running with a friend or friends, sharing goals and strategies). Wow, I want that! But what about the flip side? Running, as in marathon training, sucks! It's exhausting, it takes tons of time, it causes wear and tear on joints and ligaments, it makes you look like a starving person, it's unhealthy. It's f***ing self destructive! I know, I've injured myself a few times, I've had running related fights with my spouse when allocating too much time to running. I DON'T want that shit. But you have to take the good with the bad, or the bad with the good, right? No you don't. Just cut down running to two or three times a week, or substitute it with other, less taxing, exercise. Socialize in other ways. Try to find an optimal personal mix. There are quite a few needs that are not met by running (or rather marathon training), that might be more important than the needs that are met. Running marathons is just one solution to fulfilling needs, or even one tiny part in a much larger mix of actions toward fulfilling needs. There are needs that might be seriously neglected if running marathons becomes an addiction or a compulsion (or even to much of a priority).

I think I already mentioned, years ago, that the real goal for me was to abandon the couch and get active again. Running marathons and ultras sounded daunting and challenging enough to actually get me engaged, it sounded so much more significant than simply: get healthier. The good thing with goals is that they make you move towards them. The moving is the thing of importance, actually, the goal in and as of itself is much less significant. The moving is your time, your life, hence "the journey is more important than the destination". So goals should be set, or abandoned, mindfully. If they help you get your needs met and live a fulfilling life. Great! If they obstruct you from finding better ways to get your needs met. Think again! If you don't know what your needs are, find out more about them. To put it simply:

I have realized there are more pleasurable ways to get my needs met.

Thank you for reading. And do note I'm not at all abandoning an active lifestyle, nor should anyone else abandon aspirations towards greater health and fitness - on the contrary this journey has made me realize more than ever that I, mind and body, need exercise - but in moderation.

Run for your life! At a comfortable pace, and not too far